Spring Festival, grandmother comes and we live together.
Old person always specially loves the child. Every day, she nearly all time and the energy, uses, in has served on my family's treasure daughter body, eats meal from puting on clothes, cleans the teeth washes the face such conventional service, to plays the role of the old cat, plays the role of Malaysia, plays the role of the turtle the special assignment, all does one person to contract jubilantly. All day cheerfully on busy busy, lets me be glad idly. Has a question to be quite troublesome only, is she is used to the child to be used to really a little odd.
Dotes on, cannot bring the affection
Is just like this morning,fashion kids shoes, she first prepares a big table of sumptuous breakfast, then goes to awaken respectfully little princess, a face roars her to get out of bed brightly. But the daughter before the dining table, seeing had boils the egg, did not appreciate kindness rendered unexpectedly, as soon as the small face turns, shouts must eat the scrambled eggs. Finally, I this lovable maid, likely listened to the charge sound to be ordinary, turned around to crash in the kitchen directly. I am blocking, estimated that also had two eggs to die in battle ahead of time.
However the following matter, actually lets her depressed specially - go to the kindergarten on the road, grandmother asks the daughter: You most like who is the human? - - mother!
The so ice-cold reality, has attacked grandmother seriously without doubt that frail mind. After proficient, she speaks entire item matter to me listens, in the tone full is the envy flavor: Fresh kiss! Kisses the mother, the bone blood relation, breaks bone Lian Zhuojin! How do others hurt do not have usefully!
Grandmother thinks not clearly: How do you manage the child daily, I hurt daily, may this child turn toward you at heart finally?
Certainly turned toward me! What do you usually listen to her, according to her, looks like in her, your she does not decide,cool kids clothes, comes across the matter she also to be able to count on that you do decide? I whisper.
But I do not give up ......
The super big good person = does not have the strength
Did not give up does not say to the child, definitely was not my family grandmother a person's puzzle. In mine work, hears frequently has the guardian to voice so the feeling: As soon as saw child that double shiny black, fills the hope bright and intelligent the big eye, gave people a hard time likely fills the invincible supernatural power general stimulated, how the full brain has thought is to hurry to help him to realize the desire, where also worried about on the consideration should!
Therefore, they are unable to reject child's any request, likes using some small methods to deal with settles, gets by under false pretences. Looks like my family grandmother to be the same, they liked saying that a bit faster put on the shoe, daddy soon arrived the home, or I could not buy this toy to you, the money in your mother there, you will ask mother to want next time, but very few will say happily may not.
In brief, they will only present the environment and the condition do not permit, but firm will not express them not to permit. In front of the child, they forever act the super big good person.
Was only a pity that in the child heart, such big good person is actually the human who lacks the strength. With them in the same place, the child believed that oneself is a formidable side, simultaneously is also must consider that deals with all questions a side. Under this condition, on the surface looked that the child controls all, but in subconscious actually lacks the security, because that kind is limited the security which felt.
The taboo other aspect is a security sense
Many poles aparts the thing is depends on each other mutually. Has not listened not, is unable to confirm that anything is; Never the human who limits, instead does not experience based on the security above true freedom.
Imagines, if a your alone person places oneself in the limitless prairie wilderness, the most intense feeling, probably is not free, but more is panic! (do not apply mechanically forest park with me experience, you knew at heart forest park also has security boundary) only then to wait for your Ge Hao a thatched hut,baby doll, after confirming the fence firmly, only then relieved will sleep not right? The fence is the limit, simultaneously is also the safe safeguard.
Again for instance, when you go to the African Egypt these culture custom to have with us the very greatly different place travels, tour guide's many idle talk you too will not care, but if hears the following these behaviors in the locality is the taboo, cannot ......, you certainly will raise up the ear to listen while to record.
Because only then had determined anything is may not, you can confirm: Oh! So long as I do not make these not to be possible, I handle any other matters certainly am again may.
Therefore, when the parents public proclamation forbids the child not to be possible to play with fire, may not nip the electric wire, may not look like at the same time which daddy drinks equally, was also equal to, in has made the powerful guarantee to the child - - outside these behaviors,（Related ArticlesBaby Boutique Before beginning school, the guardia）, you are safe. Therefore, the child may feel relieved that plays boldly besides the fire each kind of thing, nips except the electric wire various types thing, drinks besides the liquor outside all drink.
This is the security sense which the limit brings.
